You see, managing what is going on in a player's mind is enormous.
But there's two ways a player's emotions are influenced.
The first is through his own thoughts, which we've touched on already.
And the second is by what he is told.
Mom and Dad, if you want your son to play like a Lovejoy, YOU have to make some adjustments as well.
And this isn't a "Oh hey say nice things to your kid because this is just a game and it's the right thing to do."
There's a little bit of that involved, but this is more of "This is what is effective in getting your child to perform at his best."
4. Ask Questions - Don't Instruct
How does the ride home sound in your car?
When little Jones has a sub par game, he gets in the car and the instructing begins...
"Your stance looked too narrow today, make sure you get wider."
"Remember what we worked on practice? You didn't do that today."
"You're hitting a lot of pop ups, we need to hit the middle of the ball."
And Dad isn't wrong about any of these statements, but the fact remains...
...is that this isn't helping.
So little Jones came to the game nervous, made some mistakes and is now hearing all about it in the car.
SOUNDS LIKE FUN!!
But these problems need to be addressed, right?
So, what does the Lovejoy family car ride look like?
Talking with Jono Armold, pitching coach with the Texas Rangers and holder of a Masters degree in Behavioral Psychology ...
...and all around great dude...
...his studies showed that players - like most everyone alive - don't like being told what to do.
(Shocker, I know)
But what they don't mind is being asked questions.
"How were you feeling out there today?"
"What do you think went well today?"
"What could have gone better?"
By asking questions, little Lovejoy is encouraged to take ownership of his own growth and improvement.
Because he's prompted to think about how to improve, he is not feeling embarrassed about his mistakes.
Instead of focusing on all of the mistakes like the Jones' car, the Lovejoy are focusing on solutions and improvement.
And do you really want to know the magic of asking questions?
This one is so important...
It's this:
Little Lovejoy almost always comes to the same conclusion that Dad wanted to tell him about in the first place.
So while Mr. Lovejoy is empowering his son and is now looking for new ways to strengthen his son's confidence...
Mr. Jones is suggesting more batting practice.
"We'll get some extra swings in the cage. That will help iron it out."
But you tell me...
Will more swings in the cage fix the Jones' problem?
So who do you relate to?
There are REAL methods to help your son manage his emotions, and it is no longer acceptable for a kid to be left to "figure it out" on his own and *hope* that some day he'll play with confidence and ease.
It doesn't work that way.
Do you consider yourself to be adventurous enough to try a new method?
Because here's the thing, you don't get a do-over with your child's playing career.
And if you want new results, you need to try new things.
So if your child who is playing with tension and nervousness, I've put together a program that has worked wonders for my son....
...and for others as well:
It's called The Bulletproof Hitter, a 6 lesson program designed for young baseball players to help give them the tools to deal with their emotions and play better in games.
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If your son has anything in common with little Jones, I want you to know that there is a path - REAL steps - to play like a Lovejoy.
Every player is different, so if you're wondering if The Bulletproof Hitter would help you in your specific situation....
It will. 100%. No question about it.
So does The Bulletproof Hitter sound like a fit for you? If so, I'd love to tell you more:
If you don't get the invite within 15 mins, check your spam folder. Or you can shoot me an email at [email protected]
