I hope you understand
how incredibly powerful your words can be.
Just before my sophomore season at Fresno City College I was invited to a winter camp at Long Beach State.
I was EXTREMELY excited to be invited but also pretty nervous.
My dream was to play D1 baseball but I still was having the “imposter syndrome” doubts of, “Am I good enough? Can I really play D1?”
To be honest, I was coming off a decent freshman season in junior college and still grappling with my identity there, like “Wow, I can’t believe little ol’ me is starting at FRESNO city college!”.
And now here I was, getting very real interest from Long Beach State, a perennial top 10 program at the time.
There were some monster names coming through LB: Jered Weaver, Troy Tulowitzki, Evan Longoria….
…but at the time, none bigger than this one:
Bobby was a shortstop and had just signed a contract with the Oakland A’s as their first round draft pick …and he drove a new Escalade.
For a 19 year old kid, this literally is the dream.
This was winter time so he was hanging around the 2 day camp and wherever he was, people took notice.
I end up having a VERY good weekend. Hard contact at the plate, throwing guys out trying to stretch triples, turning double plays…all of it. Just one of those things where I picked a good weekend to have a good weekend.
And my last at bat of the weekend I crushed a high fastball but got way underneath of it. The ball ends up being caught at the track.
But I killed that ball.
And Bobby happened to be standing at the end of our third base dugout during this part of the game, and
as I crossed in front of him…he says this:
I stop my jog and walk over to him.
He says with a very serious look on his face, “Are these coaches talking to you?”
Right when he says that he looks over to the first base dugout where all of the coaches were, as if he were about to get their attention to make sure they talk to me.
I say, “Yeah, I’ve been on the phone with Buckley and Barbara (coaches at the time) a little bit, so we’re talking.”
He looks back at me – no smile or anything – and says, “Ok. Good.”
Right then some guy walks up and throws his arm around him and was like “Hey Bobby!” and so Bobby and I just gave each other a head nod and I went to put my helmet away.
I can still remember standing by the helmet rack, putting my batting gloves in my helmet and thinking:
“Bobby Crosby….thinks I’m alright.”
I had always *thought* and *hoped* that I was pretty good, but from that moment on….I believed it.
That one simple exchange – I can say with no exaggeration – changed my life.
And do you want to talk about the ULTIMATE throw away comment from Bobby!!
If you ask him a day later – shoot, an hour later – what he said to me, he probably wouldn’t be able to tell you.
And I will remember it for the rest of my life.
The thing is, we underestimate what an impact we can make – and are making – with our words.
We get caught up just watching ball games that we forget that these boys and girls out there are waiting for something ELSE to tell them what kind of player they are.
For most, the game results tell them WHO they are. And if you let the game tell you who you are, it’s gonna tell you that you suck most of the time.
Every now and then it’ll give you a reprieve with a great day, but most of the time it’s gonna point out how many times you mess up.
So as parents and coaches, WE have to help them determine WHAT THEY THINK OF THEMSELVES.
Kids will believe what adults tell them, they really will.
If you have ever had a positive thought about a player on your kid’s team, and you DID NOT SHARE IT….
…man, what a missed opportunity.
A LIFETIME memory may have just been made….but you didn’t share it.
And “good job!” ain’t it. “Hey _____, your bat looked so fast today. I really love watching you hit.”
For some players you have to dig a little deeper….but those are the ones who could use a genuine compliment the most.
And I want you complimenting your own kid, but compliments to your own kid can be easily brushed off.
But a compliment from another parent? Feels like a million bucks.
So parents/coaches, be mindful of how powerful your words are.
Your words are going to create their self identity – for better or for worse – so make sure you are choosing carefully.
|Alright, shout out to all of you who responded sharing your favorite baseball training aids and gadgets….
…so many I haven’t heard of that I’m going to check out.
(and a few I’m not – man there’s some weird stuff out there, lol!)
So here are my top 5 training aids from this past year –
plus one I didn’t care for and A LOT of you asked about.
We’ll start with #5:
I didn’t want to like this.
When I first saw the Swing Away, I decided that I hated it.
So big, so much going on.
All the pulleys and cables and what not….I was like “Do we have to over-complicate EVERYTHING!??”
Then I used it.
Like 2 weeks ago.
And I was like, “Ohhhhhhh. I get it.”
Dodgers hitting coach Luis Ortiz once told me that Americans hate picking up balls, and I thought of him when I used it.
No need to chase balls. No need to even reload a tee!
Now, some one emailed and said the cables/tethers can wear out….and I’m not sure how long it takes for the baseball that’s attached to wear out (let me know if you do!)…
…plus you don’t get to see ball flight, which is obviously solid feedback…
…but overall, this is a really slick product for home workouts.
This little gadget basically velcros a tennis ball to the barrel of the bat and helps a player feel his way to a short and up-the-middle hand/bat path.
If the tennis ball goes up the middle…you’re looking good.
Or if your bat/hand path is a little too “round” the tennis ball is going to fly off to the left or right.
If you have kids that are arm-barring or casting (which is almost all young hitters), this is a pretty cool product.
I’ve had a couple of kids who couldn’t figure it out (and I was confused as to what to tell them outside of the super helpful comment “send it up the middle” , ha).
But mostly this has been a nice gadget. Made by a pro hitting coach too, which is a plus.
I was surprised at the price ($50) which seemed like way too much for such a simple item.
BUT, it does work….
And I’d rather pay $50 for something that works than $10 for something that doesn’t, ya know what I mean?
These little babies are made of rubber, full of sand (I think) and super durable.
They’re are GREAT to have on hand for a couple of reasons:
One, they are a great pre-game tools for kids to be able to take full swings without needing a ton of space or netting.
The balls just don’t go very far even when crushed.
Second, this was my #1 tool just 2-3 years ago when the boys were like 5-7 years old, because one of the biggest problems was that kids weren’t swinging HARD enough.
At least not in practice.
I’d put the ball on a tee, move out about 8 feet or so in front of the hitter and say “Hit it over my head”.
And they’d start to REALLY take aggressive swings, and all of a sudden they were moving better (loading better, staying tall, etc)…
and it seemed a lot of their problems ironed out without having to give too many cues.
I love these things.
2. Pocket Radar
I’m a huge believer in “What you measure, improves.”
And it’s so easy to get caught up with all of our drills and programs and pat ourselves on the back like, “We’re making great progress!”
But if you’re not measuring your progress….how do you really know?
There’s two things I measure with this:
Exit velocity and throwing velocity.
I’ve used the bat sensors and they were cool…..but you could kinda get lost in the weeds with SO much information.
Plus, the sensor would have to stay on the same bat if we wanted to measure a bunch of kids quickly…..or we’d have to take the time to mount the sensor to each player’s bat…
Which isn’t TOO hard but is just kind of a pain.
The Pocket Radar is so simple. There’s ONE button and it gives one measurement.
One very helpful measurement.
At the end of the season, it’s good to know…
Is my kid/team ACTUALLY hitting harder? Are they throwing harder?
Now, I’ll admit there’s something a lil uncomfortable about getting little guys throwing for the radar gun….so I don’t do it often.
It’s not like “Hey, you’re throwing 44…I need you selling out on the mound today and get to 46+”.
Personally, I use this like 3-4 times a season.
Once right when we get started with the season and then every couple of months and then definitely one at the end.
(To get their score I typically I do about 7 swings/throws, throw out the top and bottom and average the rest and make note of their top.)
And the kids LOVE it. Oh man do they love it.
Now, sometimes the readouts seem a little wonky and I think it’s important to measure everyone at the same angle (all from the side, or all from head on….which is what I think they recommend) because different angles seems to mess with the numbers some.
But I know pro scouts who use these…so it’s pretty reliable.
Not a cheap option either, but man, is it worth it.
Last note, there’s one (cheaper) version where you HAVE to hold the button down for a read out and another – the “Ball Coach” option – that can shoot continuous without holding the button.
I got the Ball Coach and like it – though I hold the button everytime anyway – and have heard people that bought the lesser version and wish they had continuous option. Either way I think it’s pretty good.
And NUMBER 1:
[note: no need to use this link, just get them at the local store]
I didn’t use these until a couple of months ago when I met Mike Brumley (hitting coach for the Braves if you’re new here)…
…and he uses these with his pro guys….
…and they’re fantastic.
I spent like $7 for two at Kroger and they are PERFECT for the best drill you’re likely not doing.
I should probably tease you about Mike’s teachings in his program (which you can find here 🙂
but I think this drill is straight up genius.
And honestly, it’s been so helpful for my players that it’s not right not to share.
Here’s a picture:
All you do is put that inflatable ball between your shoulder and *roughly* the top of your grip/handle....
...and then swing!
That's the only cue you really have to give.
If you look at the second picture you can see that it keeps the "barrel inside the hands"
(which is a term I had never heard and Mike believes is more helpful/accurate than "hands inside the ball")
but I've found you don't even need to worry about that part.
Kids tend to do it right on their own.
But for me the main benefit is the SPACE that is created by having the ball there when you set up.
All of the drills he put me through were really good...
...but it was the ball props - this position in particular - that made me go -
Still don't have the perfect words to describe it...but my swing just came out so much better compared to my normal hands-close-to-chest swing.
In fact after we were done Mike was packing up his gear I sat on a bench thinking
"My hands were in the wrong place my entire career. Lol"
"How did nobody tell me!!!"
And all I needed was a $3 ball from the grocery store.
It's been a killer tool for my team of 9 year olds too. Truly a game changer for a couple in particular.
So I make sure that ball is in my "coach wagon" for every practice.
If you don't go get one of those cheap things within the next week then I'd suggest you unsubscribe from this email list...
...cuz I can't help you, haha!
So simple. So cheap. This needs to be an automatic part of everyone's routine.
Oh, and I was going to share the product that so many asked about that I didn't care for.
It was the Swingrail.
Man, I hate to say it because I think the mechanics it teaches are sound -
and full disclaimer, I didn't give it too long of a shot.
But I couldn't get it to work.
Basically the goal is to keep the barrel from "releasing" too early.
And if the barrel DOES release too early (which basically means getting the barrel outside of the hands....the 2nd picture of Mike is a good example of the barrel NOT released yet)
...then the velcro (that's wrapped around your arm and attached to the bat) tears and that's the feedback that you've done it wrong.
We spent about 15 mins with it and every single time anyone swung with it....the velcro tore.
And it was like......wait, did we do this right?
Is the strap is too long for these little kids with skinny little arms?
I put it on and was trying to figure it out too....and every time it ripped.
Now, maybe (probably!) my swing needs adjusting, but like I said we fiddled with it for about 15 mins and then haven't gone back to it.
I've talked with a few other people and all had a similar experience.
But the thing won awards and is everywhere....so there's gotta be some value to it - so let me know if you've had a good experience.
(In fact, a friend just replied to my first email saying they use and like the Swingrail...so there ya go!)
But in my opinion, the Line Drive Pro is more user-friendly that achieves a similar thing...or like I said, the inflatable balls in the shoulder/bat position do the trick also.
So that's it!
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I've thought about putting a list of a BUNCH of gadgets and reviewing them all if that's something you guys would like to see.
And let me know what's worked for you, I'd love to hear it and add it to my Santa list 🙂
Go get em today guys!!!!
P.S. A friend of mine suggested I use affiliate links for the products and wanted to make it clear this is my genuine top 5. Basically, I'd get a little kick back from Amazon - a little slice 'cause I'm nice - for the referral and it doesn't cost people any more. Anyway it's kinda irrelevant but thought it was the right thing to do to give you a heads up. Thanks!
|It’s tryout season, and with the first tip I want to share comes directly from this community.
A couple of weeks ago I asked the question “Imagine it’s July of 2019…what do you want your son’s game and his experience to have looked like this past year?”
And the answer is tip number 1:
Don’t just go out for a team because you think they’re going to win a ton or if the coach is a little shaky or if your kid might be buried in the OF or at the bottom of the lineup.
The overwhelming response from parents was that they wanted their kid to have grown as a player as much as possible (and enjoy themselves while doing it).
Let me tell you, even on GREAT teams the kids who are hitting 8th and 9th (or 11th and 12th in many cases) are STILL quick to identify with “being the worst”, so be careful here.
Now, iron sharpens iron and playing with good players sort of ups the ante and can inspire a player to new heights….
…but you need to be CRYSTAL CLEAR on what you’re wanting – and *not* wanting – this upcoming season and try out for the according teams.
2. Make sure your kid knows what his/her objective is at tryouts
This one is big for the younger ages.
It’s amazing to see how many players seem content with simply fielding their ground ball or catching their fly ball, and throwing it to the base just like they normally do.
And when I say normal, I mean at about 80%!!
My son did this at his first tryout, they hit grounders to short and he needed to throw it to first…
…and he just sort of lobbed it!!!
The ball bounced short of first and just kind of trickled in….
…and I was about to flip out, haha!
Well I bit my tongue and didn’t say anything and he threw all of his chances the same way (and didn’t get selected).
Your kid must realize he is SHOWCASING what he can do: how hard he can throw, how hard he can hit and how fast he can run.
Do not let him/her go in there unaware that he needs to bring 150% to all of his throws and everything he does.
3. Don’t mess around
I’ve crossed off several kids from my list who would have had a real chance of making the team because of how much they goofed off.
There is A LOT of waiting around during a tryout format and some lack of concentration is understandable….
…but when kids are running around, playing keep away with a hat, or my biggest pet peeve – not being READY FOR YOUR TURN (“Hey #19…Aiden….hey you’re up!!!”)– they are really hurting their chances.
4. Use your words
Ok here’s my favorite tip. We can psych ourselves out and say things like:
“I’m not good at tryouts”
“I hope I don’t screw up”
“I hope this doesn’t go poorly”.
And it’s natural (and helpful) to have some juice/nerves flowing but you have to take control of your words/thoughts:
“I love tryouts”
“I kill it in tryouts”
“This is so fun, I love this”.
Simply saying those words will signal the body differently and you will be FAR more likely to live into those words.
I’m telling you, do this one!
I almost didn’t put this one, but I’m gonna share it and let you do with it what you will 🙂
About 10 years ago I was putting on a tryout for a 10u team.
And FYI, every roster I’ve ever been a part of comes down to the same thing –
There’s 1 or 2 roster spots left to fill and about 5-6 kids in contention to fill it and you have almost no clue on how to decide between them.
One kid can hit but can’t throw, another kid can throw and run but doesn’t hit….that type of thing.
And this year was no different.
Well I was the catcher for these kids during the pitching station and one kid came up to me afterward and said “Thanks coach” and shook my hand.
Now, while I thought this was a nice thing I also recognized that this kid was probably buttering me up a little!
But here’s the key…it worked!
The “he seems like a really nice kid” ended up being one of the deciding factors and I picked him!
Funny note, this kid never lived up to how well he did during tryouts and while being a nice kid – I wished I had that pick back.
And I always remembered – The Handshake got me!
But what I’m trying to say, is that good manners, a handshake, a thank you can be a factor when things are close.
Feels like brown nosing – and kinda is(!) – but it can be effective when done right!
Wrong way to do it: Going too far out of the way or over the top. If the coaches are in deep RF, just let them be.
And it’s gotta be the kid, parents coming up to schmooze doesn’t work.
But if the coach is close by and you can thank him for something, go ahead and give it a try.
P.S. Oh and one final tip here that is probably most important….
This works whether you’re a believer, non believer, whoever.
When you get quiet and as for guidance or to be guided down the correct path for your kid-
I promise you, it really helps.
Good luck during tryouts this year, let me know how it goes!!!
YOU’VE GOT THIS!!!
Reading Harvard professor Ben Shal-Tahar’s book “The Pursuit of Perfect”…
(fair warning…I loved this book….prepare to hear about it again :))
…he talks about The Perfectionist vs The Optimalist.
Here’s a quote:
The single worst question you could ask a kid after a competition is…
How would you feel if you made TWENTY THREE outs in one week?
And struck out six times?
And had three of those strike outs in ONE GAME!
(in front of a huuuuge crowd, no less).
Probably pretty lousy right?
In this episode, I talk with Garth Iorg about the difference makers in his successful 9 year big league career, and also what he’s seen in his coaching career that has separated guys who have had long big league careers from the guys who flamed out…..and spoiler alert it’s not talent!
Just a great talk with Garth, in this conversation we cover:
Ok, I gotta come clean on this one.
“For 130 years, pitchers have thrown a baseball overhand, and for 130 years, doing so has hurt them.”
“Like so many other businesses, baseball tolerates the unconventional so long as you’re getting hits.”
Isn’t that the truth.